Becoming a Stager doesn’t mean you are a pushover.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi81sC-_gy1TrlC2qsDFpQtfYBrsNcAmqD7jSPNg353W0QO0m3QAdxLQyU5p1tk-CBlXm8WGs03G7pIQdYNJFNKG3hRXEIu7gzRcjYW0Y1Co79rLn_-aIBWtAIxBu1uPn9LLPwpbehnoZR1/s1600/download+%25282%2529.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="118" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi81sC-_gy1TrlC2qsDFpQtfYBrsNcAmqD7jSPNg353W0QO0m3QAdxLQyU5p1tk-CBlXm8WGs03G7pIQdYNJFNKG3hRXEIu7gzRcjYW0Y1Co79rLn_-aIBWtAIxBu1uPn9LLPwpbehnoZR1/s320/download+%25282%2529.jpeg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace;"><br /><br /> <span style="font-size: large;">Becoming a Stager doesn’t mean you are a pushover. In fact, many times the loving-kindness and compassionate thing to do is to set boundaries.<br /><br /> <br /><br />As with everything we talk about here in our Stagers hangouts, the key is balance. Too many boundaries and you close off; no boundaries and we lose ourselves.<br /><br /> <br /><br />As Stagers continues to grow, time is getting slimmer and slimmer. And more people are asking for Stagers hangout time.<br /><br /> <br /><br /> We have to learn the valuable lessons: of compassion and boundaries of loving-kindness.<br /><br /> <br /><br />One of the most challenging lessons we have had to learn was the lesson of giving TOO MUCH away to others.  We have become so focused on this other person’s recovery and ideas that we were ignoring our own recovery.<br /><br /> <br /><br />As a result, resentment built up within us and we then projected it onto other stagers. we became pissed off once more. we thought at the time we were pissed off because other stagers were not seeing us, but the truth is, we were not seeing ourselves for who we really were or what we really wanted. So, it was through lack of contact with our child within that our lives became once more out of balance.<br /><br /> <br /><br />This is a painful and crippling lesson for us to learn emotionally, physically,  and financially. We once more become bankrupt across the board. It was ironic because we were promoting a message of compassion, but we didn’t have any for ourselves.<br /><br />Of course it is in giving that we receive, but that starts with ourselves.<br /><br /> <br /><br />If we are not full, we will have nothing to give away. We learned that boundaries are very important. We learned that we had to be in contact with our intuitive voice before we could be fulfilling in any relationship .<br /><br /> <br /><br />We learned this lesson through pain, but it has since become a path of joy. Our ego hates the transformation from that dark place of the hidden child within to our life now, but each time my ego got mad, my child within celebrated its pathway to freedom.<br /><br /> <br /><br />Now, we are living our recovery. which we started through contacting our child within, then grew from giving that loving-kindness away and is sustained by a balance of giving to ourselves and to others. We have never experienced more consistent joy in our lives as a result of those painful childhood years and we would do them all over again if we had to, because on the other side, life becomes beautiful and sweet.<br /><br /> <br /><br />Are you living your life for others and abandoning your child within in the process?</span></span><div class="zemanta-related" style="clear: both; margin-top: 20px; overflow: hidden;"> <h4 class="zemanta-related-title"> Related articles</h4> <ul class="zemanta-article-ul zemanta-article-ul-image" style="margin: 0; overflow: hidden; padding: 0;"> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://intuitivevoices.blogspot.com/2015/06/the-key-to-loving-kindness-practice-is.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; 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Becoming a Stager doesn’t mean you are a pushover.

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